Therapy for Relational Patterns & Attachment Wounds
Depth Therapy in Los Angeles & virtual across CAWhether you're untangling a breakup, unsure if you should stay, or tired of ending up in the same dynamic, you don't need to have it figured out to start.“The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships.”
Esther Perel
You might be going through a breakup, a separation, or a divorce, and still trying to make sense of what happened and who you are on the other side of it. Or you might be in a relationship right now, caught between wanting to make it work and wondering if you're settling, or afraid to leave.
You may keep feeling anxious or confused in your relationships, noticing the same issues come up again and again. You don't feel fully seen, heard, or supported, even by people who care about you. Resentment builds, and you're not always sure where it's coming from or what to do with it.
Wherever you're starting from, the questions underneath tend to be connected. You don't need to know yet whether you're staying or going, or what the pattern means, to start looking at it here.
You're going through a breakup, separation, or divorce, and you're trying to make sense of what happened and who you are on the other side of it.
You're in a relationship right now and unsure whether to stay, caught between wanting to make it work and wondering if you're settling or afraid to leave.
You keep finding yourself with partners who are emotionally unavailable or inconsistent, giving more than you receive.
You notice anxious or avoidant patterns in yourself: chasing reassurance, scanning for distance, or pulling away to protect yourself.
Conflict feels dangerous, so you either avoid bringing things up or hold everything in until it spills out.
Emotional needs feel like “too much,” even though you want deeper closeness.
You notice the same bracing, over-functioning, or walking-on-eggshells pattern and you're not sure why it feels so hard to shift.
You might be here because:
Relationships, connection, closeness, the sense that you belong somewhere, these are some of the most important parts of being alive. So when they're struggling, it doesn't just stay there. It touches your sense of self, your energy, your ability to show up fully for work, for family, for everything else that matters.
OUR PROCESS
We’ll explore not just what’s happening in your relationships, but what’s happening within you in those moments, so that you may begin to shift from reacting out of old wounds to responding from self-trust, clarity, and connection.
In therapy, we’ll focus on
Understanding your attachment patterns.
We’ll name what tends to happen when you get close to people—anxiety, shutting down, chasing, pulling away—and how that connects to earlier experiences of care, criticism, or inconsistency.Listening to your nervous system in relationships.
We’ll pay attention to what happens in your body during conflict, distance, or closeness: tightness, numbness, urgency, and help your system experience more safety and choice in those moments.Healing from betrayal and relational ruptures.
Where it fits, we'll use EMDR alongside this relational work to help process specific memories or moments that still carry a charge, so they can settle rather than keep resurfacing.Practicing new ways of relating.
Over time, therapy becomes a place to try out more direct communication, clearer boundaries, and the acceptance of your needs, so that the relationships you build outside the room start to reflect that.
You're tired of feeling anxious, numb, or on edge in your relationships, romantic or familial, even when things look fine from the outside
You feel alone or disconnected even in relationships that matter to you, and you're not sure why closeness doesn't quite land the way you want it to.
You feel overwhelmed by the emotional weight of your relationships, like you're carrying more than your share.
You don't feel fully seen or understood, even by people who love you
You're craving a deeper, more authentic connection than what you've had so far.
This work may be a fit if…
Therapy can be a place to understand what your relationships are stirring up inside you and to practice new ways of relating to cultivate authentic, meaningful connections that feel rewarding rather than draining.
If you’re curious about working together, you can schedule a free 15–20 minute consultation to see whether this feels like the right space for you.