When relationships feel confusing, overwhelming, or painful, it often points to deeper patterns you’ve carried for a long time.

You might notice a pattern of choosing partners who can’t fully show up and giving more than you receive; staying agreeable, understanding, or low-maintenance in hopes that the connection will feel secure.
Conflict may feel threatening, and emotional needs may feel like “too much,” even when you long for deeper intimacy.
And if you’ve experienced betrayal or rupture, your system may still be on alert, unable to settle even long after the moment has passed.

Common experiences I support:

• Repeating relationship patterns you can’t seem to break

• Attraction to emotionally unavailable or inconsistent partners

• Anxiety, hypervigilance, or shutdown in connection

• Betrayal trauma and difficulty trusting again

• Codependency and people-pleasing

• Difficulty setting boundaries or expressing needs

• Fear of abandonment or closeness

• Feeling unseen, unmet, or unimportant in relationships

• Disconnection from your own desires, intuition, or identity in partnership

Understanding what’s underneath these dynamics

Relational patterns are often rooted in early experiences: how you learned to receive care, express emotion, and protect yourself. Over time, these strategies become automatic. You might feel pulled toward familiar dynamics even when they hurt, or find yourself overreacting without fully understanding why.

Therapy offers a grounded, compassionate space to explore the deeper layers beneath your patterns — the beliefs, expectations, and protective adaptations shaped by past relationships.

This isn’t about blaming your history.
It’s about helping your present make sense.

How we’ll work together

Our work will help you:

• Identify the relational cues and triggers that activate old survival strategies

• Understand the attachment patterns shaping your responses and choices

• Reconnect with your needs, boundaries, and internal signals

• Process betrayal, rupture, or relational trauma with care and attunement

• Develop a more secure sense of self in relationships

• Build healthier patterns that feel aligned, grounded, and reciprocal

We’ll explore not just what’s happening in your relationships — but what’s happening within you in those moments.
Through depth-oriented therapy, EMDR, mindfulness, and somatic awareness, you’ll begin to shift from reacting out of old wounds to responding from self-trust, clarity, and connection.

If these patterns feel familiar, you’re not alone.

And you don’t have to navigate them the same way you always have.
Therapy can help you untangle what’s been shaping your relationships and create space for connection that feels steadier, healthier, and more aligned with who you really are.